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10 Ways To Escape The Curse Of Perfectionism

10 Ways To Escape The Curse Of Perfectionism

At the beginning of a recent workshop I asked the twenty participants to jot down on an index card the thing they are most afraid of. Here is a sampling of their fears: “My greatest fear is to be a failure. I’m scared to start something and not be the best at it.”   “I […]
ByJP ReynoldsJul 21, 2017
10 Questions To Help You Work Around and Re-frame FEAR!

10 Questions To Help You Work Around and Re-frame FEAR!

  I collect and frame menus that hang on my dining room walls. Last Christmas friends gave me a framed menu from a long-gone New York establishment. I loved the menu but not the frame, so I decided to get it reframed. Well, here it is July and I’ve yet to get the menu reframed. […]
ByJP ReynoldsJul 10, 2017
12 Most Assured Ways Confident People Telegraph Confidence

12 Most Assured Ways Confident People Telegraph Confidence

  I teach an eleven-week course at UCLA Extension on “Interpersonal Communication.” The final assignment is simple – rather than have the students jump through the hoop of an exam, I ask them to tell me in five hundred words or less what they have learned. Last Quarter, one answer in particular stood out. Pablo […]
ByJP ReynoldsJul 3, 2017
What I Learned From My Most Challenging Coaching Client – Ever!

What I Learned From My Most Challenging Coaching Client – Ever!

Earlier this year Holly (name changed) took a workshop from me on “dealing with difficult people.” At the end of the day she confided that the big take-away was that she is a difficult person – not her clients. With candor she confessed that she doesn’t like talking to people because she’s just not interested. […]
ByJP ReynoldsJun 26, 2017
Do People (especially “men people”) Interrupt You?

Do People (especially “men people”) Interrupt You?

To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody else – means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting. e.e.cummings   Last month Mari, a department head at an international concern, brought me in to do […]
ByJP ReynoldsJun 16, 2017
How Not To Make Yourself “Difficult”

How Not To Make Yourself “Difficult”

Why do you stay in prison when the door is so wide open? Rumi “I hope the rain is nice to you this weekend,” so wished a Starbucks barrista as I headed off with my latte. I thought it was an oddly worded wish – which made it rather charming. Later that afternoon I met […]
ByJP ReynoldsMay 18, 2017
The 1 Thing You Need To Remember About “Doing” Confidence

The 1 Thing You Need To Remember About “Doing” Confidence

Last month I was in in San Francisco to catch the performance of my friend Anthony in the riotously funny play “Speakeasy.” I was early and so popped into one of Little Italy’s many cafes. I was jotting down ideas – for this newsletter actually – when a man walked in and went over to […]
ByJP ReynoldsMay 3, 2017
Avoiding The Trap Of “Catastrophic Thinking”

Avoiding The Trap Of “Catastrophic Thinking”

“I pursue nowness. That’s what I do.” Wang Deshun, 80 year old fashion runway model   I had set my phone alarm for 7:30 AM. I woke up at 8:00 AM confused – how could I have slept through the alarm? Hmm – my phone was dead. Dead as in it wouldn’t turn on even […]
ByJP ReynoldsMay 3, 2017
Are You Confident Enough To Feel Joy?

Are You Confident Enough To Feel Joy?

On a recent episode of “Live With Kelly!” (yes, I feel embarrassed writing those words} Jake Gyllenhal shared that being part of the Broadway revival of Stephen Sondheim’s “Sunday In the Park With George,” has been a pure joy for him. Joy. That’s a strong word. It’s a word I don’t use often – or […]
ByJP ReynoldsMay 3, 2017
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